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70 Days of Weaning: Day 6

Begin Again, Now

Your responses, questions, support, and love are all helping me stay conscious and deliberate in my actions. I continually begin again from now, this present moment. I am intimate friends with these inquiries: Is my son thriving? Am I thriving? How is this working for us? Is there anything I would like to change? I am happy to say my son is absolutely thriving. I am doing well too… and I am very reassured by what happened last night. 

My son and I made it to the other side!!! We made it to the other side of his upset. He had woken to nurse, and I chose to hold the boundary of no nursing. He was, again, very upset. He asked in a variety of ways; he was very clear in his asking. I stayed present with him, letting know I loved him. He looked at me square in the face, eyes big and straight on, as though he was peering into my soul. I smiled and let him know we were going to get through this, and that everything is ok. I honored all of his feelings. I welcomed all he had to offer, any feeling was ok with me.

I breathed. I waited. I watched. I held. I let go. When he needed space, I stayed with him emotionally but let him take space physically. I welcomed him back into my arms whenever he wanted to be there. I felt very interested in what was happening. Pretty soon, his crying shifted to affirmations of something else. He wanted me to lay next to him in bed. He got under his covers, in his favorite spot in the middle of his bed, and he patted the space next to him. He looked at me expectantly, and said, “Da!” He pointed with one finger to that empty space beside him, and looked at me again. No more crying, just clear 2 year old communication. We got to the other side of his upset in just over 15 minutes. Whew! That was amazing. Like the quiet after a downpour, when the birds begin chirping again, stretching their wings, ready to resume their normal activities accompanied by life’s beautiful song.

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“When hearts are open and awake, we bring warmth and blessings to our community and the world.” – Jack Kornfield

“The aim of art is to represent not the outward appearance of things, but their inward significance.”

– Aristotle

“This sky where we live is no place to lose your wings so love, love, love.” – Hafiz

“The sacred is the reality of you. It’s the reality of everything.” – Adyashanti

“The symbols of the self arise in the depths of the body.”

– C.G. Jung

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, because what the world needs is people who have come alive!” – Howard Thurman

“Eye contact, gentle touch, warmth in our voices, and caring words are balm for your child’s being.” – Patty Wipfler

“Meditation is not a technique to master; it is the highest form of prayer, a naked act of love and effortless surrender into the silent abyss beyond all knowing.” – Adyashanti

“The point is to learn from whatever is experienced, whether it’s liked or disliked, beautiful or ugly. Everything will teach us if we let it.” – Ajahn Amaro, Finding the Missing Peace

“The body tells a story. It is, in fact, a living autobiography.”

– Elaine Mayland

“If you find an intelligent companion,
A fellow traveler,
A sage of good conduct,
You should travel together,
Delighted and mindful.”
– The Dhammapada, translated by Gil Fronsdal

“Healing is being present with what is, exactly as it is.”

– Rain Elizabeth Stickney

“If we could untangle the mysteries of life and unravel the energies which run through the world; if we could evaluate correctly the significance of passing events; if we could measure the struggles, dilemmas, and aspirations of mankind, we could find that nothing is born out of time. Everything comes at its appointed moment.” – Joseph R. Sizoo

“We cannot say that there is no past or no future, only that past, present, and future occur in the timeless Now.” – Dorothy Hunt

“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” – Anna Quindlen

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